Love Seeks to Understand

Happy is the man that findeth wisdom,

and the man that getteth understanding.

~Proverbs 3:13~

What if for the next ten days or so, you and I were to seek to find wisdom and obtain understanding concerning our husbands?

When something goes wrong in my relationship with my husband, I am at such a total loss. I actually think I am the only one in such a situation. I feel alone. I want encouragement. 

All my married life, I have not gone to my parents for help in this area. I also rarely have sought out a girlfriend. It is a rare and precious friend who seeks to help me see my 'fault' in the situation instead of 'agreeing' with me, thus putting a divide into the already troubled relationship between myself and my husband. 

Have you ever noticed how women easily chatter on-and-on about husbands?? For some reason, women tend to be like their sister (Eve) and ten to cut their once dear husband down. This behavior has gone viral in our society today!!

There are some things we can do in order to gain wisdom and understanding in our marriages without devastating our God-given prized relationship with our husband.

Have you ever noticed that women like to learn?? 

I don't know for certain, but I think there is an extremely high percentage of women bloggers. We like to learn and talk about what we learn. Women love to learn about health issues, education, cooking, and then blog about it. 

How often do women really, really take the time to study and understand their husband?? I think studying our husbands is way low on the list!! What do you think??

How much do you really know about your husband?? 

If you have been married a few months or under a year, chances are, you are still madly in love and know each other better than those of us who have married longer and have settled into a routine with children and our lives. Often, a couple's lives take on two separate forms: his and hers.

If you have a special marriage even after quite a number of years, this is for you!!

If you have a struggling marriage after a number of years, this is most definitely for you!! Don't think you are cruising along and there is nothing more you need to do. You might need to stop taking your husband for granted.

There are hidden things that we don't know about our husbands. Trust me!! 

Once after we were married my husband was telling how when he was a child, his family traveled up the Suez Canal by ship. You would have thought that he was the only one who ever did that!! My family sailed up the Suez Canal by ship the same summer. Yes, crazy, right?! Here we had been married for a couple years and didn't know a major thing about each other!!

There is always something more that you can learn about your husband. It might just be a mannerism you never noticed before!!

If you learn to understand your husband better, don't you think it will help keep the disagreements away?? Understanding leads to favor. Wisdom.

Understanding is a life-long journey that draws you closer and closer to your husband. It is far sweeter to be on a journey together than on two separate ships (like my husband's and mine) sailing up a canal without the awareness of the presence of the other. 

Do you know:

• Do you know his or her greatest hopes and dreams?
• Do you fully understand how they prefer to give and receive love?
• Do you know what your husband's greatest fears are and why he struggles with them?

I am afraid I can't properly answer these questions. So, as I look towards Valentine's Day coming up soon, there are some 'things' I want to learn to understand about my husband, so that I can grow in wisdom in my marriage and learn to love him better. 

I am enjoying the book, The Love Dare, and taking the challenges presented in the book.

"Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you.

The dinner can be as nice as you prefer. 

Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, 

perhaps in areas you've rarely talked about.

Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate."

~The Love Dare, page 89~

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~Judith~