The days when we were preparing for marriage were the most exciting times of our lives. Everything in life came alive as if it depended on our love.
Usually, before a couple is married, the guy wants to make a good impression on his girl. He takes her to interesting places and nice restaurants because, love makes good impressions. Too often, once that couple is married, in time, life settles into a routine and it is too easy to neglect our husband, especially once the children come along.
If you want your marriage to thrive through the years, you must invest in it for better or worse, richer or poorer, so that you have a special relationship that will last both of your lifetimes. My husband and I have been married for 33 years, and we are by no means the 'model' relationship. It isn't always easy. How about for you?
There have been many things that I did to keep the fires burning warmly in my marriage, but there have been many things that I neglected through the child-growing years. How much better those difficult days would have been if I had not neglected to greet my husband like I did when our romance was new!! This may seem inconsequential to you, but you will find surprising significance to this one small gesture.
Here are four ways to improve your relationship through greeting your husband:
- Greet my husband warmly when he comes home from work. I know about when my husband will arrive home from work. I need to be prepared to stop what I am doing and show him how important he is to me, show gratefulness for his hard work to support his family, and genuinely show affection toward him.
- Speak kindly to your husband with a countenance and expression that conveys respect and honor.
- Be gracious and humble enough to address your husband with kindness even when communication between you is stained.
- Let the words to your husband: when you first wake up in the morning, when you are in the car with him, the energy in your voice on the phone, always convey that you are really, really glad to see or hear him.
The most important piece of advice I can give you is: always, always, always look to see what YOU did wrong instead of focusing on your husband. You will do more to change revitalize your marriage through allowing God to change YOU instead of YOU trying to change your husband!!
whatsoever things are true,
whatsoever things are honest,
whatsoever things are just,
whatsoever things are pure,
whatsoever things are lovely,
whatsoever things are of good report;
if there be any virtue,
and if there be any praise,
think on these things.
Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today.
Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm.
Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
(The Love Dare-page 44)
Disclaimer: I have not arrived!! I still am learning to do all the things I have suggested in this post (and other posts) and find that writing these posts on Marriage is for Keeps does more to encourage me to love the wonderful husband that God has so graciously given me.
In Christ Alone,